Once you’ve both agreed to hook up, it’s all a matter of finding the right time and place to do it.

As simple as I may have made it out to be when talking about finding women who love sex, it’s actually not as easy as it sounds.

The reason I say this is that you still have to approach the whole thing with a bit of tact and a strategy.

Otherwise, you’ll end up scaring many women away because you may look like a sexual degenerate who’s only after one thing. And trust me, women don’t like men who are desperate to get laid. Desperation is one of the biggest attraction killers in dating and seduction.

1. Don’t make your first message overly sexual.
2. Focus on flirting, friendly banter, teasing and having fun.
3. Get to know her and tell her what what you’re looking for in a date.

These steps don’t take a long time to go through. And if you follow them, you’ll usually find out pretty quickly if she’s the right woman for you.

Don’t come on too strong too early

The first step is arguably the most important one. It can spell the difference between getting an answer or being ignored right from the start.

If your first message is something blatant like “Want to get together?” or “You’re so gorgeous I want to meet you and bang your brains out!” you’ll probably either get ignored or get blocked.

Women on online dating sites get some variation of such a lewd and overly sexual message hundreds of times a day. They promptly label the guy a thirsty creep, delete the message and ignore him.

So be a little bit tactful, and start off with a simple heartfelt and appropriate compliment with your introduction. Look at her profile and her pictures. See what genuinely catches your eye about her. Then write her a personal message, complimenting her on the specific thing you liked about her.

The point is to be unique with your first message and to give her a compliment that is genuinely thoughtful.

That said, you obviously won’t get an answer from all women. Some of them simply won’t like you. Read more